Am i too hopeful & optimistic; should i accept it & give up?

There is a chance. You must learn to dance, and not by him. The hips must move. The body must have rhythm. Don't lose out, because of this one thing. You will need dancing as it is a social skill. I am not saying, give up at all. Just be ready. A date with him will be a dancing date with his cultural group, not a sitting activity, and not bowling, but maybe a soccer game or dancing. That's the way it is.